There are differences in the way that women see or take their mothers-in- law, while some feel that they don’t have the right to know how things are going in their marriages ,and as such, should steer clear, others see their mothers- in- law as an indispensable part of their marriage.
I have witnessed a scenario where some unmarried future mothers have gone to the extent of wishing that it would be better if their mothers- in- law will be dead before them marrying their sons. This sounded disastrous to me. I tried as much as possible to let them know the implication of such mentality.
There is a saying that you should treat others the way you will like to be treated. Recall that your mother- in- law was once like you, and you will one day be like her, having your sons getting married, how will you feel when you are maltreated or wished dead by your daughter -in- law?
Before you act, think! His son that you got married to was harboured in her womb for nine months. She trained, pampered and took care of him until he got to his peak where both of you now met and got married. Had it been that he was not properly taken care of or trained, maybe you wouldn’t have met him or you would have met him but will not like to get married to him.
Note also, to make your husband love you more, treat your mother-in-law very well . I don’t think that there is any man that will be happy with you when he observe that you are not treating her mother well .
Here are tips to help you know how treat your mother- in- law;
1. SEE HER AS YOUR OWN MOTHER
I don’t think there is any right thinking person who will like to hurt his or her mother. So, if you are a wife, try to see your mother- in – law as your own mother too, this I know will help you to handle her in a better way.
2. DON’T SEPARATE HER FROM HER SON
It is a great pity that some men have danced to the tune of their wives , neglected and no longer care for their mother due to one problem or the other between their wife and their mother- in – law. Even if your husband is having issue with her mother, try to settle them. Don’t be the one that will separate or promote the separation of your husband from her mother, other wise you are likely to reap what you sow.
3. CALL TO KNOW HOW SHE IS DOING
Always put a call across to know how she is. I may suggest that after calling your own biological mother, try to call her too.
4. TAKE CARE OF HER NEEDS
Make it a point of duty to send things to her once in while, it could be money or other items. Find out the things she loves and try to provide such things for her.
5.DON’T BE RUDE TO HER WHEN SHE IS CORRECTING OR GIVING YOU ADVICE
Know that your way of reasoning and hers may not be the same. When she is correcting or giving you advice, calmly listen, even if you don’t want to take the advice or correction.
6.MAKE OUT TIME TO VISIT HER
If your mother- in- law is living in a different area, always try and visit her, you can go along with your kids as seeing their grandchildren gives them joy.
7.ALWAYS WELCOME AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF HER WHEN SHE VISIT
Don’t make your house a hell on earth for your mother-in- law when she visit, rather, try as much as possible to create a conducive environment for her. Try as much as you can to see that she enjoys her visit.
Also read;Best ways to treat your daughter-in-law and make her love you forever