Your presence in the life of the one you love should bring healing and not hurt. Let your love act like a soothing balm to their pains and wounds. If they were hurt in the past, make them feel wonderful again. It is misleading to say love hurts because it doesn’t; rather, rejection hurts, hatred hurts, and betrayal also hurts. Telling someone you love them and treating them badly is gaslighting and not love.
If you really care about someone, you will hate to see them in pain. You will make it a priority to putting a smile on their face. You make their burdens lighter and offer a helping hand when they’re in need. You’ll value protecting the heart of someone you love more than protecting your ego.
True love means taking accountability, giving a listening ear and always trying to make things right. Loving someone doesn’t mean that you’re perfect, it means that you and your partner will always be ready to make things right. You listen to the one you love, understand, empathize and feel bad when you hurt them.
When you love someone, you don’t put blame on them for your misconduct, you rather try to be responsible and take accountability. You’ll not lie to feel good or protect your image, you say the truth to protect who you love and correct your wrongdoings.
You don’t hurt someone you love, you make them feel the best way they want to feel
You know you love someone when you always try to know why they’re hurting. Real love listens and cares, shields and protects. When you expect the one you love to accept the pain and the hurt and move on, you don’t love them; rather, you’re manipulating them.
If you are used to toxic and unhealthy love, stay away from telling people you love them because what love means to you is not what it means to most people. Your love should be a guiding light for the person you love. Love to inspire, teach, direct and be present in a positive way in the life of the person whom you are in love with.
Are you drawing your inspiration from some stories that you have read about true love hurts? It’s time to accept the reality, true love doesn’t hurt, but ignorance and manipulation do. Lack of awareness of what love truly is makes some people claim that love hurts.
When you love someone, you don’t force them to love what they don’t love or accept what they don’t love most especially when it is negative and you’re only trying to satisfy your curiosity. An abusive love is when you keep telling someone you love them and treating them badly at the same time.
If you have the wrong perception about relationships and love, heal before letting someone into your space. Seek emotional and psychological therapy before assuming that it is a way of life. Not everyone can easily recover from being hurt by someone whom they think or claims to love them.
Don’t just say you love them and do otherwise, because love is beyond uttering mere words, put them into action and let it be visible all over you. Treat the one you love like your most valuable and cherished property that you wouldn’t want to lose. Let them find a home in your heart and feel safe at all times.
You don’t care less about the feelings of the person that you love, you don’t let them question their position in your life. Don’t be breaking them constantly and hoping they will recover each time, You are exhausting them emotionally and , one day, they will get tired of this and may even break down. Make them feel safe, loved, valued and appreciated at all times.
Also Read: What Love Looks Like in a Relationship
