Dear Joe,
I just picked up my pieces, which made it possible for me to write this to you. I decided to move on quietly after the heartbreak you caused me, but it dawned on me that I would be left with so many unspoken words forever. I’m glad I encountered someone like you in my quest to find true love. I don’t take the moments we shared together for granted.
At the beginning of this relationship, I was very comfortable with you, which made it very easy for me to reveal so many things about myself. I thought I had found a soulmate because, I won’t lie, you always paid great attention when I was communicating with you. It never occurred to me that all I shared with you would be used against me one day.
Honestly, the love I had for you was true. I considered you a part of my life to the extent that you became a part of my thoughts and my existence. I didn’t believe in love at first sight, but upon seeing you, my heart made me feel that you would be the one to complete my joy. How I wish I had been able to realize in time that I was walking on a time bomb. In my life, I have always treaded with caution, avoiding situations and things that would cost me my happiness, but I later found myself deeply immersed in an unfortunate situation that took me a long time to recover from.
I was there for you. I gave you my heart, my time, and my attention. All these years, what you succeeded in doing was keeping a record of all the wrongs I did to you so that you could use it against me later. What happened to the open communication that I have constantly practiced in our relationship? I started suspecting your sincerity in this relationship when you constantly hurled harsh words at me and judged me based on my weaknesses—some of which I openly shared with you. Knowing that I’m someone with soft feelings, you didn’t bother to consider how these words could hurt me.
I will never forget your attitude towards me in this relationship. You made me question myself and my existence. I thought always being available to share our joy could make things better, but instead, you told your friends that I’m not giving you any breathing space. What didn’t I do to please you? I put you first in everything, yet I was severely mistreated by you.
I didn’t know that you could be mistreated for showing true love. The day you yelled at me in front of your friends just for telling you to adjust your dress collar marked a turning point for me in our relationship. Despite the fact that I demanded an apology from you, you refused. Without minding, I still found a place in my heart to forgive. I kept questioning myself about the kind of person you are. I realized that I might have been loving the wrong person, but it wasn’t clear to me yet.
The last straw that broke the camel’s back was when you told me that you had better men running after you. That day, I felt like I was in another world. I managed to get home, but I battled with sleepless nights. I promised myself that no matter how my mind might deceive me this time around, I would never call you or pick up your calls again.
You may wonder why I’m writing this letter to you. Yes, I have moved on, but I want to heal completely. This is a way of letting you know that I’m not naive; it’s just that my heart deceived me. You were neither the soulmate nor the friend I thought you were. I want to remind you to be careful of how you treat people. If you don’t like them, don’t let them waste their love on you. Be honest, so they can leave quietly instead of being hurt intentionally.
I may not be good for you, and I may not be the one your heart longs for. One thing I know for sure is that there is someone out there for me who will make me feel the way I want to feel. You are not my enemy; you’re a part of my life’s lessons. Please be careful how you treat people, even those you think do not matter.
Goodbye to you. Take good care of yourself. I will not be heartbroken forever; I will heal completely one day.
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